5 Ways to Gain Clarity Through Uncertainty
Nobody is immune to uncertainty. It can creep up at any time, even when we’re feeling SO sure of ourselves. For some it’s more acute, it plagues us and drives our actions and decisions (or lack thereof). We may not even realize that we’ve based our lives around a fear of making a decision because of how uncomfortable uncertainty feels to us, or worse, we may find ourselves stuck in a place of weighing our options, feeling it out, and getting uncomfortably, maybe even painfully, stuck.
When stuck it’s easy to feel incompetent. Nobody likes to feel ineffective and purposeless. Rather than allowing these feelings to lead us into self loathing and self hatred, remember that what we are perceiving as incompetence, immaturity, or weakness, is really a very common state that we all sometimes find ourselves in, and it’s a result of living in a world with countless options, opportunities, and a hell of a lot of stimulation.
It can be hard to know what you really want in the digital age, especially if you have a lot of interests. We all have a lot of options and a lot going on in our lives, and so when we are sold the idea that “You can have whatever you want!” It’s easy to think, OK, well where do I start? And How? And if I can’t have it all, what is wrong with me?
So how do you figure out what you want?
Instead, you let go.
You have to.
All new life, all beginnings, all forms of creativity require space, so you have to gift space to yourself. This way you can let the clarity that you need come through.
So now, the important stuff.
* How To Create Space For What You Want *
1. Cleanse Your Body - for me personally, this is hands down, my favorite way to create space. Space in the body = space in the mind. It also equals an open heart and a strong voice, in my experience, as well.
When I say cleanse your body, I do not mean you need to quit eating for a period of time, or that you need to do a juice fast. It really just suggests cleaning up your eating habits, and if it feels right, fast for a period of the day over a short period of time. You do not need to give up food to cleanse the body. You can have a powerful cleansing experience while still eating well and enjoying food.
2. De-clutter Your Living Space - This will be easy and feel natural if you’re de-cluttering your body. Clean body, clean mind, clean home; do you see a pattern?
Start with the spaces that you deal with daily, your purse, your bathroom, your car. Fold your laundry. Put it away in an organized closet and in tidy drawers. Allow the laundry folding to be meditative, not boring. Watch how peaceful this most basic chore can make your day.
3. Write It Out - Get the uncertainty down on paper. By sorting through your uncertain thoughts, it will be easier to know which voice is from fear, and which it from your heart. This might take a few days, but don’t give up. Time yourself, give yourself fifteen or twenty minutes, and just write, unedited. This is for nobody but yourself. And if you hate what you wrote, you can rip it up, flush it down the toilet, or burn it. Have fun with this. Discipline need not be serious!
4. Surrender - Let go of the need for an answer. Accept that uncertainty can be a part of life, but if you are aware of it, let it ride it’s course, and gift yourself some space by de-cluttering and clearing out all that is blocking clarity’s pathway to you, it certainly won’t last forever, and maybe it won’t even last very long. Ultimately, uncertainty takes us higher.
5. Believe in Yourself - The more you love and believe in yourself, the less of a hold uncertainty will have over you because you know that YOU can always be there for yourself and that YOU are strong enough, powerful enough, smart enough, and intuitive enough to work through whatever life brings.
Know that you will find your way through whatever it is you are going through.
Know that you can find a solution.
Trust that it can be easy, once you surrender.
Trust your heart. Know that by giving yourself the gift of space, listening to your heart will be easier.
Photo Credit: Tim Huyghe